Friends? How many of us have them?

Updated: Jan 15

One's you can depend on?

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Have you analyzed your circle of friends recently? You've heard it said that you can only go as high as the people that you associate yourself with, right? I'm paraphrasing. So consider this why do you think that it's critical for you to consider who you associate with? Why would it be so imperative that you align yourself with people with the same moral compass that you have? Why should you not hang out with people who consider it okay to lie even if it's about things that they consider to be "white lies", people who think it's funny to mock or make fun of other people? They call people fat, ugly, retards, stupid, racist names but they only do it around you because they feel comfortable saying it around you. What does that say about you?


Do you really want to associate with those who are chameleons? They are so many different people with so many faces? I may change my speech, lectures or message based on the audience that I'm speaking to. However, the substance of my message does not change, who I am as a person does not change. My character does not change. However, if your "friend" encounters a car thief and begins to act like a criminal. i.e. tone, mannerisms, and their phrases change and they begin to curse when they didn't before or they begin to use new phrases and walk differently than when they were with their CEO friends then that's a problem.


When they are around Christians they act as though they never touch alcohol and that it's the devil's poison, then when they are with their family and co-workers after work they take shots and try to drink people under the table.


When they are with their married friends who hold their vows to be sacred they toe the line but when they're with other people who think it's funny to flirt, cheat, go to strip clubs, have office romances, etc they go along with it.


Changing who you are to fit in is not smart because eventually, you become a stranger to yourself. You will look in the mirror and wonder who is looking back at you. It is human nature to want companionship, friendship, relationship... What are you willing to do or give up to achieve that is what you will need to determine. Determine it well in advance so when you are faced with a decision you already have that principle, that value, that standard you set firmly fixed in your brain and you will not compromise.


Changing who you are to fit in is not smart because eventually, you become a stranger to yourself. You will look in the mirror and wonder who is looking back at you. It is human nature to want companionship, friendship, relationship... What are you willing to do or give up to achieve that is what you will need to determine. Determine it well in advance so when you are faced with a decision you already have that principle, that value, that standard you set firmly fixed in your brain and you will not compromise.


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